What I don't want you to know about me is...

This is my favorite game.

I first learned of this game from my coach. He plays it all the time. And because of his example, I started playing it all the time. 

What I noticed in myself, my work, and my relationships were markedly POSITIVE outcomes. I felt better after delivering difficult messages, I felt closer to the people in my life, and I felt like I could achieve more.

Here's the game: 

When you have something you should say, but you're really nervous to say it, start by saying this:

"What I don't want you to know about me is_________________"

Here are a few examples:

"What I don't want you to know about me is.....

...this is really difficult for me to share because I want you to like me. "

...I'm nervous you won't like me after I share this message with you."

...I want to be closer to you but I'm not sure how to do it."

...I want you know I care about you, but I've been too shy/scared to say it."

Some work examples:

"What I don't want you to know about me is.....

...I have some great ideas that I don't share for fear of ridicule."

...I feel like I'm just winging it sometimes. That you'll find out I'm a fraud."

...I identify success with money. So I go for the easy money/sale instead of going after what I really want."

...I feel stuck in job, and I wish I could do something else instead."


At work. With your spouse. With people you care about. 

You can create better relationships. You can be more authentic. A lot more becomes possible when we share what it is EXACTLY that we don't want people to know about us.


Because when you face your biggest fear first, everything else seems easier! When you do the scariest thing and realize you it didn't kill you, you become braver.


PS- Share your experience with the game in the comments section below!