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How I'm a Failure...And I Love It!

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Who doesn't have days when you feel like nothing is going right, and you'll never get back on track?! 

And when you share that with anyone, it's like they're all on the happy train and trying to steer you away from negativity.

But sometimes you need to wallow in your failures before you can see the flipside!

It's days like that when I call on my Failure role models for a little inspiration! Steve Jobs, Michael Jordan, and Beyonce Knowles were all failures at one point in their lives.

It's difficult to even imagine such successful people as failing at something. But they do! All the time! What they're able to do is the see the Failure Flipside! 

When you're experiencing failure, the key is to envision your success in that exact scenario. Watch this week's video to learn the Failure Flipside approach to turning your devastating failures into future successes!

Listen as I share my personal failures, my failure role models, and the key to changing your failures today!

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What's have you failed at? I know, you're not supposed to talk about these things or let anyone know your weaknesses. Yeah right! Make that different! Share your experiences to empower your progress and help others in the comments section of this video!

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Cheers,

Brittany

What Success Really Looks Like

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I hear this all the time: "I tried to change but it's not working." "I keep trying but nothing is changing." Etcetera, etcetera. Look people, if whatever it is took years to 'break' then it's not going to be completely fixed overnight!

Most people have a linear picture of what success looks like in their heads. And that makes sense for the most part - If someone is successful, they mostly likely have small achievements on a daily basis.

But I like to reality-check that idea with this saying: "an overnight success is really an everyday hustler." Meaning....this person didn't become successful in a snap! They've worked years to get where they are!

One of my favorite examples of this is GoPro cameras. You see these awesome sports cameras everywhere in 2013! But what most people don't know is that the founder first got this idea in 2000! He has been working his butt off for 2013 years to make this a household item! 13 years!!! What have you worked on relentlessly for 13 years? Yeah, I know... me neither.

The point of this is not to make us all feel bad and lazy, but to recognize that each time we keep trying, each effort we make to reach our goals, is still putting on the path for success. We learn from every experience we have, whether we think it came out great or poorly. We gain strength from each time we get back on the horse and give it another go.

Success can largely be attributed to a frame a mind. As said by Tony Robbins:

“People who fail focus on what they will have to go through; people who succeed focus on what it will feel like at the end.”

So when you've been knock off track and feel like you will never achieve change or success, quit focusing on the small steps and get back in touch with your big picture. 

What does your goal look like? What will it feel like when you get there? Share your goals below in the comment section now!

What Inspires You?

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Ever have those days when you just feel stuck in a rut? Your vision and goals are out of focus. You just need something, someone, somehow to kick your butt into gear?!

I do! Some days when I think about my fitness goals, business goals, and overall life goals it feels so overwhelming. Like I have no idea where I'm going or how to get there! But I have a go to solution to help me overcome this feeling...

My muses!! A muse can be anything that serves as inspiration. It can be pictures, people, or colors that leave you inspired, motivated, and ready to create. And muses aren't just for traditional artists! We're all artists and creators of our own lives and designers of our dreams; and sometimes we are bound to get stuck - stuck in the monotony of our routine, our interactions, and our thoughts. And it's difficult to create something new with old inspiration!

Pictured above is Marie Forleo- amazing business and life coach and creator of the "Rich, Happy, and Hot" program. If you have a brand named "rich, happy, and hot", you're doing something right! She shows us that business should be fun, funky, and free to be your authentic self! My favorite color- orange! It reminds me of the sun, warm energy, and tangerines. Yummmm! My fitness muse- Camille Leblanc-Bazinet. She is the modern image of a beautiful, strong woman. She inspires me to never give up on my fitness goals.

So on days when I'm stuck, I just pull up my pinterest account that is full over these amazing muses and I can set a goal for the day. Try it! What's your trick to push through a creative block? What serves as your muses? Share Share Share!

Excuse me, Discipline, Where are you?!

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If it were easy, we'd all do it. If it's worth having, it's worth working for.

We must all suffer one of two things: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret or disappointment. 

Have you ever experienced the joy and elation that comes from real accomplishment? No, no I'm talking REAL, BIG accomplishment. Like that kind that you had to work your booty off for months for! That kind of achievement that could only come from sacrifice and consistency? If you have, you know what I'm talking about !

There's no better feeling than what you get from putting your mind and body to the test and reaching the finish line. But the other side of that? Yeah, that side that results from avoiding our goals, making excuses for not working towards our goals, and totally sabotaging ourselves. Regret. Hate it! But for some reason, I can disappoint myself time and time again. What is this nasty thing that keeps us from achieving what we set out to do? I definitely have good intentions when I set my goals. So what happens?!

So many people have written on self-discipline and what contributes to people's success and failure. Although each person's goals and methods may be unique, there are some common behaviors that can contribute to your success or failure. Here's a few I have found to be most important:

- Pencil in your dreams! If you don't make an appointment with yourself to work toward your goals, you will never find the time to do so!

- Your goals are important too! Treat your appointment with yourself as you would any appointment with a client. Would you cancel on a customer last minute? No. So don't do it to yourself!

Strategize for success. "if you don't have a plan, you plan to fail." Steve Jobs didn't just say he was going to become rich and successful. He had a strategic, structured, and efficient plan to get there! What is your strategy? How detailed is it? Can it guide your day-to-day activity?

- Make SMART Goals: Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Time-oriented. If you can use this acronym to describe each one of your goals, you are well on your way my friend!

Prioritize and Sacrifice as needed! This is the least glamorous of the strategies - yet equally important! If you're trying to make room for something new in your life, then something that's not serving you needs to go! If watching the most recent episodes of Dexter, Homeland, and Breaking Bad aren't bringing your closer to living your dreams, then somethings needs to change! What most importantly needs to get done today? Do that first!

- Stop hoping. "Hope" is the ultimate killer of your dreams. "If I just want this badly enough, it will come to me and I will be successful." Yeah right. Stop hoping and start doing. That is discipline.

What motivates you to act on your dreams and work toward your goals? Have a success story? Comment on it below!

Achieve your goals by...Leaning In

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Lean In, by Sheryl Sandberg, is an empowering book that speaks to women striving to build a meaningful career and balance all other aspects of life. She talks about the struggles of having children in a dual career household, yet the importance of having an equal partner. She touched on using women's social powers to good use- in networking and in finding a mentor for your career. Although I wouldn't recommend this book for everyone (the social worker in me recognizes how exclusionary these topics are), she asks a question that I think everyone should ask themselves...at least once: What would you do if you weren't afraid?

So often as children we dreamt lofty dreams of who we wanted to be and what amazing jobs we wanted to have. As we got older, we started to identify a lot people we vowed NEVER to be like. And many times by age 30, we've already settled for mediocrity and are quickly picking up the habits of those we didn't want to become.

So what happens? We are afraid of failing...so we end up not trying. There are many reasons why we end up not doing the things we said we wanted to do when we were young (some of those decisions are wise). But no matter what, I encourage you to ask yourself, "What would you do if you weren't afraid?"

I attended a book club discussion on this book. We were asked to write our answers down and share them. Talk about holding me accountable to my dream! Try it yourself and share your experience below!