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Don't give into the giving

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It's week 4 of the Holiday Survival series, and if you're not feeling the holiday crunch by now, you're likely a hermit. Or you're completely balanced and have this whole thing figured out way better than I do! Either way, here we go... Giving. Seemingly the central ingredient in your holiday stew. But why? How did we get here? This can't really be what the holidays are about!

You're right, it's not! But we perpetuate the cycle by giving in to the giving.

The holidays are a time for us to appreciate and recognize the ones we love. Think about who you want to spend the holidays with - likely the people you care about most.

So how do you show them how much they mean to you? {insert ridiculously expensive mall purchase here}

No! Don't do it! Give your love instead!

But if that's not enough for your 6 year-old or partner, at least add a sweet note or card :)

Watch this week's video to learn to give love and give without expectation- the most authentic form of giving.

{http://youtu.be/7Qfu7i9okTA}

Going holiday shopping this weekend? Share how you got outside of your gift-giving box! Head on over to the blog to tell us how it went! Leave your comments, stories, and feedback there!

Manage Your Stress Better!

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Who isn't stressed? Right?! Especially around the Holidays!

Does your day look something like this? Drop off the kids, go to work, pick up the kids, go Christmas shopping, mail cards to family, cook dinner, get family pictures taken.....Aahhhhh!!!

So how do you stop the madness? Ideally, we'd all cope with stress successfully by using the techniques we know will ground us and make us calm. But for some reason, I can never remember what those are in the moment. Anyone else have this problem?

Our body's response to extreme stress or a threatening situation is fight, flight, or freeze. Fighting with your boss, kids, or partner is probably not the best way to get what you need. Freezing will help you think momentarily about what your next move should be.

But I want to talk to you about flight- When we're in a stressful situation either we've got to change, or the environment has to change. When a situation is too stressful, it's difficult to change our behaviors or habits. So when you're first working on coping skills to better manage stress, change your environment!

- Walk away from the immediate stressor

- Take space in another room or office and turn off the lights.

- Take a walk outside for 10 minutes to slow down your thoughts.

The more practice you have in stressful situations, the more you will understand the control you have in them. Once you've regained some of that control, implementing stress management techniques will feel more like a positive choice your making, rather than further adding to your stress. Some techniques to try when your stress in on overload:

- Think of this: "Is my head in the same place as my feet are?" Be present!

- Fold in half with knees bent and do the waterfall.

- 3-Second Breaths: deep breath in (inhale over 3 seconds) and exhale (for 3 seconds). Repeat 10 times.

These grounding techniques will help you slow down, collect your thoughts, and strategize for success in whatever your stressful situation is.

What has worked for you in the past? Share your skills below!

10 tips for a healthy life from the World's oldest person

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Ever have a tough time getting up on a cold fall morning because you feel achy? Or feel really old because you can't keep up with teenage trends? Think again! Mr. Kimura of Japan recently passed at the ripe age of 116. And according to the article at the link below, he seemed very quick witted until the end.

Mr. Kimura lists 10 ways you can try to surpass his accomplishment of living to 116. These are some of my favorites:

- Exercise daily - Let your struggles make you stronger - Be one with Mother Earth - Practice gratitude

http://bit.ly/19dOi8C

What do you do to live 100+ years? Share your secret!