wellbeing

4 Steps to Being Heard!

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Do you ever catch yourself saying this: "How many times do I have to say it?" Or "why can't you understand me?" Or better yet "am I speaking English?"

Communicating with others can be confusing and frustrating at best! Sometimes it seems that those closest to us have the most difficult time understanding what we're really saying. But who's really to blame - them or us?  

Great communication is the result of authenticity and love-based efforts to be heard! Are your speaking from a place of love or fear? Psssttt - have you ever not send what you really meant or wantd? Ever held back or held it in? That's fear.

Use these 4 components to say what you truly want, desire, and value to get your needs met!

1.    Observing: The concrete actions we are observing that are affecting

       our well-being

2.    Feelings: How we feel in relation to what we are observing

3.    Needs: The needs, values, desires, etc. that are creating our

       feelings

4.    Request: The concrete action we request in order to enrich our

       lives

Watch the video to see how it all plays out!

What component works best for you? When have you tried this and it actually worked? What's an example in which you can use this strategy that wasn't mentioned? Let's start a conversation in the comments section on this video or blog post!

PVD Lady Project's Summer Guide

Looking for things to do, what to wear, and how to stay fit this summer? Check out the PVD Lady Project's Summer Guide! It's chalk full of great gifts, activities, and.... yours truly :)

Along with 3 other AMAZING Providence women, I was asked to play a part in the making of the Summer Guide. The Lady Project was looking for women who are fit, goal oriented, and like to have fun! I was happy to share some of my secrets to success in business and fitness (see pages 16 and 41)

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Check out my beautiful friends and rest of the Summer Guide here: http://issuu.com/pvdladyproject/docs/2014_summer_guide

What are your favorite ways to enjoy summer? How about in RI? How do you stay fit and motivated during this time of year? Share your tips in the comments section below!

Be your best self this summer,

Brittany

Happy Sunday!

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Happy Soul Sunday to all of you! It's a beautiful sunny day here in Rhode Island. But no matter where in the world you are, it's a beautiful day to reset, renew, and restore for the week ahead.

Who has started Spring Cleaning already? Me too! It's unbelievable how many material things we accumulate. I moved a year ago and had the opportunity to get rid of all the crap I didn't need. So I find it astounding that only 1 year later, here I am with the same problem.

The funny part is that when we're buying all this "stuff" we totally 100% believe that we need this item or really want that thing. But the truth is the need or want are really just masks and lies.

You will always get everything that you need. Sometimes no more than that, but always enough. How do I know that? Well, tell me a time when you didn't have all that you really needed to survive. Please, do tell me in the comments below if you've been through a time like that.

We get stuck in the mask of "I need this" or "if I only had that...I'd be happy. Or "...I'd be fulfilled." Or "...I'd be [fill in the blank with your core desired feeling]." But these are only lies we tell ourselves.

What we need to be happy will never come from the Apple store or Nordstroms. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news. But it's true.

We have to consciously and actively create and pursue happiness in and by way of ourselves. You have to be aware of your life aim. You have to make goals. You have to take chances and move towards your fears. You have to go outside of your comfort zone, and you have to go inside of your heart to find out what you really need.

Today I took to time to nourish my body with exercise, my my mind with organization and cleaning, and my spirit with laughter and friends. This made me so much happier than buying new shoes!

Don't believe me? Try it for yourself! Clearly your old methods of trying to obtain happiness and fulfillment aren't working. Otherwise, you wouldn't be reading this blog!

Make today and every Sunday a place to get rid of what's not serving you and make space for nourishment, restoration, and something new in your life. Create your best self in the process.

- Brittany